planning wedding

Why I don’t use wedding blogs planning my own wedding.

I have more than 700 blogs I read every day. Some I skim just for headlines before I read like my advertising or HR/career daily reads. I read every post on about 200 blogs a day because I love them. I have always been a big fan Shared Human Experiences. I believe in the power of blogs to level certain playing fields. Sharing information instead of hoarding and staying an unknown expert is something I’ve seen the benefits of in others lives.

Also planning a wedding without blogs would be a nightmare for me. Or, maybe it would have been easier if I had never found them. We would have gone to the VFW or a church or something. But I cant un-know what I know now, yeah?

We have found a couple of potential vendors through the blog community:  photographers, venues, the dresses OMFG, the dresses. We thought we hit the jackpot. My friend started her own cleaning service in portland, check it out.


In the beginning, we contacted a couple of photographers because we collectively geeked out over their work and it was like a first date when they responded back.

We love your work! Were planning a wedding. Wanna be part of it?! Schwede!

Of course! We’ll even give you a discount because of your so fucking awesome.

What?! Thats aweSOME, but don’t worry about a rebate. We want to pay you what you’re worth. What’s next, yo?

Oh! Awesome! Well, were on a moderate budget, so lets talk pricing.


Radio silence.

My question: I follow your blog. That’s how I met you. When I email you to follow-up and ask if everything’s okay and get continued silence, but daily posts pop up on your blog, that’s not what I would call incentive to work together.

Unfortunately, a lot of our experiences with local vendors we have found on blogs have been like this.

Its a shame. I’m not sure if there’s some post deep down in the archives of our blog that hints were douche-nozzles to work with or what but after the first whoopee-inspiring talk, we cant seem to move forward into the commitment part of it.

And I’m starting to think its not us.

Did you have a similar experience? WTF.